My wife and I had always intended to start a family, and everyone will tell you there’s no perfect time. Even in a pandemic.
becomes our most-populated category. Some of my notes: “Into sports,” “Seems a little boring,” or simply, “Dumb.”
My family seemed to think I was enjoying this process: shopping for something expensive and thus, slightly indulgent. In reality, I hated it. It was difficult for me to reconcile the fact my child wouldn’t be related to me. I just wanted to do what my straight friends were doing: make a baby with the person I loved.
By the next morning, Handsome Chef had disappeared. The little vial next to his profile had changed from green to red . I quickly went from green to red . In a panic, I shook my wife awake. “Baby, we’ve got to get Friendly Scientist! Like:The next few months were a rollercoaster of needles and hormones and health-related delays and hiccups, culminating with Insemination Day. Something we had been leading up to for years, in the end, took 10 seconds.
Who knows? But my wife and I had always intended to start a family, and everyone will tell you there’s no perfect time. Even in a pandemic. While we’re both life-long learners, we’re also established in our careers and don’t feel overly panicked about “being left behind” as a result of parenting. I’m looking forward to creating the things that gave me great comfort and pleasure as a child, like being read to at bedtime or being allowed to discover the natural world.