Letter writer is frustrated hearing, “It’s not my story to tell” when inquiring about struggling friends.
For example, I found out a friend’s brother had died. When I asked why no one had told me, I was told, “It’s not my story to tell.” Same for a friend whose husband was dying. Same for another friend whose mother had died. Same for a friend with dementia. Do these people think those who are suffering should contact and notify every single person they know?
This answer would only make sense to me if the individual going through something told people not to say anything. This was not the case in the above-mentioned situations.But she is also amazed that, when you hear that something devastating happened to your dear friends, you don't get in touch with them. Not to hear the details firsthand, but to offer your sympathy — and, if warranted, your help.I work in a customer service role.
It seems that their gratitude deserves a response, but “you’re welcome” feels awkward. Is that the appropriate response? Am I just overthinking this?But as you are paying attention to the wording, rather than simply completing a rote exchange, you can vary your response. For example: “I was happy to be of assistance.”Of course, you could reply to all such remarks with “No problem,” but that annoys many people. And “My pleasure” annoys Miss Manners.I enjoy entertaining and cooking for people.
This takes me aback. I like to have leftovers. Also, I dislike packing up food in to-go containers, which I always do when this happens. Should I just let it go? Or is there a response that doesn’t deflate my guest, but gets the point across that my home isn’t a carryout restaurant?to treat you as a restaurateur — and Miss Manners has been hearing frequently about this rude request — you may answer as one: “Sorry, but I don’t do takeout.”My husband passed very suddenly and totally unexpectedly.
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